How To Deal With A Narcissist-Click to comment

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissisticpersonality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.” “In these situations, avoid being sucked in by trying to “work things out” with the narcissist. Don’t try to placate their unreasonable expectations and demands. Keep your own expectations low, and have a “plan B” in all your interactions with them. Importantly, avoid being swayed by their charm, superficial image, prodigious promises, or emotional coercions. You’re only setting yourself up for a letdown, when you realize how self-absorbed they are, and how little you really mean to them.” – Psychology Today “Don’t Try to Change Them. Some people try to change chronic narcissists through time-consuming dialogue about their behavior. Such attempts are admirable, but often end in frustration and disappointment. With some deeply pathological narcissists, your efforts at arguing or conflict resolution actually feed their vanity, for you’re giving them the attention and power they otherwise wouldn’t possess” Psychology Today “

The narcissist changes only when he or she matures and becomes more self-aware (often through difficult life lessons). It’s not your job to change the person. The best way to deal with a narcissist is to set healthy boundaries, and take back the rein of your own life.” Psychology Today


Enjoy Your Company – Click here to leave a comment

Enjoy YOUR Company

There is no love like self love. Be good to yourself, be kind to yourself and don’t be afraid to venture out by yourself. While we are made for companionship and subscribe to the notion that two are better than one it doesn’t mean you have to be lifeless, discontent, bitter, boring or even desperate. Your time and space should be valued and you get to determine the energy you desire to entertain. Live your best life, make the most of every moment, intentionally get to know yourself better, spend quality time with yourself, travel, dine, explore local events and learn to date yourself. Initially if feels very awkward especially if you’re surrounded by couples, but it really gets easier the more you do it. When you make the decision to share your world with someone you’ll be less dependent and have a great balance between nurturing yourself and nurturing the friendship /relationship. If you don’t like and enjoy your own company it is unfair to expect someone to.

(TLCS Repost 11/17)

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Keeping Your Distance






Eyes are open (have been for some time) observations have confirmed it, distance  revealed it, lack of care and concern sealed it and at the end of the day, you’ve gotta accept it. Life is full of unexpected curveballs. You won’t be invited to everyone’s table where you were once welcomed and you won’t be at the top of everyone’s totempole as you’re no longer a priority to them. No need to ask why but rather ask why not and thank God for separating you for reasons unbeknownst to you. Be kind to all despite of it all. At the end of the day YOUR peace is essential. (TLCS repost 12/2017)